Tuesday, November 7

Stacking blocks

Seen kids stacking blocks? Not always with a plan, they just keep on stacking the way they find a block. They keep on building it up. They enjoy it. They like what they built. They will never want to tear it down. But may be Mom wants to clean up. Or when they get angry, give it a kick. Or may be one kicks his sisters blocks and she in turn kicks his too.

Later when he grows up and gets married, he repeats the exercise. He and she stacks the blocks. Sometimes together, sometimes separate. Sometimes blame for a wrong color, sometime appreciate for the right shape. Keep on stacking as and when the blocks come up. Sometimes with plan and sometimes with no plan.

Will he want to tear it down? He knows that like the childhood blocks, he can never stack it the same way he did first time. She too. But what if one of them gets emotional and gets out of control? If they started kicking on the blocks other has stacked? Or, if Mom or Dad wants to clean up a "mess"?

It is difficult to talk logic or advise diplomacy when kids fight. It is at times difficult to find out which block spoiled the stack and who placed it too. The same way beauty of a single petal does not give rose its beauty as Tagore said, the reverse is also true. A bad petal alone cannot make a rose look bad. Nor an ugly block alone make a stack look ugly.

You better stay away until they raze it down completely? But if you care for the little others who trust these little blocks, and believe thats the most beautiful they have seen, you ought to step in. And give a try.

Nothing to lose. And if you win, you keep a beautiful stack of blocks intact, and growing.

3 comments:

Muhammad Riyaz said...

I started working on this.

Let them talk openly first. Whatever they have on top of their mind. Blames. Issues. Problems. Then remove the derived problems from the list. Actually most of the part of the issues list was because of outcomes of some earlier issues. Which were never solved. Hope to reduce the list shorter and shorter and get to the root. Forget who is right and who is left. Find the problem. Like the saying - In war, both are right and after war none is left.

Also, in this situation, one cannot find his/her problems and the other parties justifications. That should be the tough task. Getting each to help the other solve the issues. Not to give self responsibilities. Lets try.

Muhammad Riyaz said...

Peace in Kashmir!

Agree or not, there is a problem. Who is wrong is not the question. Who suffers the most is what worries. It is a bilateral problem and it has to be solved bilaterally. Then someone has to work to get the so called "bi-lateral" solutions!

Talks talks and more talks. Better than no talks at all. Status quo. Better than gun shots. A kind of peace at least.

Nadia said...

very touching.i dont know why this blog brought tears to my eyes.in war and love everything is fair...but the only thing is war is not at all fair as love.coz in war its not the ones who are for war who suffers but the soldiers fighting for their bread,their families and the poor local people are the ones who suffer.who is interested in bilateral solution?????????only some dumbos like us who likes and love a peaceful castle!!!!